Goodbye, Au Revoir, Slán

November 21, 2013  
Filed under Audio and Video

“We were told ten days before birth that our daughter was stillborn. The link below tells the story from the young sibling’s point-of-view. it is a video slideshow, illustrated by unsentimental biographical paintings and has a soundtrack.”
— Louis

Goodbye, Au Revoir, Slán from louis hemmings on Vimeo.

Anastasia Frey Iragui

November 11, 2009  
Filed under Letters, In Remembrance

Anastasia Frey Iragui

We buried her in the North Woods of Central Park, near our home. We named her Anastasia Frey: Anastasia for “resurrection” and Frey for the Norse god of fertility.

She was buried in the box which held our wedding bands–glossy brown and topped with a bow–which looks like an expensive box of chocolates. She was wrapped in an embroidered linen napkin. Also in the box was white, heart-shaped piece of coral from the shore of Oahu (where her father is from) and a smooth round piece of black basalt from the shore of Arch Cape, Oregon–picked up this summer when she was conceived.

I wrote this quote on the inside:

“The seed of God is in us. A pear seed will grow into a pear tree, a hazel seed will grow into a hazel tree, and a God-seed will grow into God.”
–Meister Eckhart

My husband wrote: “love, your father”

We buried her under a tree. I placed a white, round stone from the coast of Rhode Island on her little grave, marked with her initials and a heart.

Then we sang the Easter resurrection song, “Christ is risen from the dead, trampling down death by death, and upon those in the tombs bestowing life.”

Naming the Child on NY Times.com

November 9, 2009  
Filed under Updates

Naming the Child

By STEVEN D. LEVITT

My son Andrew died exactly ten years ago today, October 23, 1999, nine days after his first birthday. No one would describe me as emotional. And yet the wound still remains remarkably raw.

Andrew’s short life isn’t a frequent conversation any more, except inside our family, because there is nothing new to talk about. When parents talk about children, it is almost always about how they are changing. Andrew, however, is forever our one-year-old.

Unfortunately for me, memories seem to fade faster than the sense of loss. For my wife, neither the memories nor the pain have faded. I know my wife’s memories remain vivid because they are beautifully captured in a recent book by Jenny Schroedel called Naming the Child: Hope-filled Reflections on Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death. In the book, she recounts the experiences of a number of families who suffered losses like ours. Reading the book, I am amazed at all the things I have forgotten about both Andrew’s life and death.

To read the full post click here:

http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/10/23/naming-the-child/

99 Balloons

November 9, 2009  
Filed under Audio and Video

Anastasia Frey

September 11, 2009  
Filed under Letters

We buried her in the North Woods of Central Park, near our home. We named her Anastasia Frey: Anastasia for “resurrection” and Frey for the Norse god of fertility. She was buried in the box which held our wedding bands, wrapped in a linen napkin. I wrote this quote on the inside: “The seed of God is in us. A pear seed will grow into a pear tree, a hazel seed will grow into a hazel tree, and a God-seed will grow into God.”
–Meister Eckhart

My husband wrote: “love, your father”

We buried her under a tree. I placed a white, round stone from the coast of Rhode Island on her little grave, marked with her initials and a heart.

Then we sang the Easter resurrection song, “Christ is risen from the dead, trampling down death by death, and upon those in the tombs bestowing life.”

St. Nicholas Children’s Cemetery

June 23, 2009  
Filed under In Remembrance

A cemetery for children at St. Nicholas Orthodox Church in Portland, Oregon.

Childrens Cemetery

Community

May 25, 2009  
Filed under Poetry

One by one
every woman I know
approaches me
carrying words

it happened to me
my mother
my sister
my best friend

four times in a row
before the baby came
once, before
I even knew

three times
over six years
and then children
healthy and perfect

just keep breathing
in and out
around the stone
you’ve swallowed

I’ve been there
I am holding you
you won’t feel this way
always

— Rachel Barenblat. Visit her blog, the Velveteen Rabbi, to hear her story, and also to find out how to obtain a free download of her exquisite collection of poetry about her miscarriage,Through.

WordArt Collaboration for Name the Child

May 9, 2009  
Filed under Audio and Video

Dramatic reading of a poem about miscarriage and stillbirth remembered and written by Kirstin Lukes, Editing, original music, WordArt Story, and narration by Jennifer Bluhm.

Letter to Lucy

March 29, 2009  
Filed under Updates

[audio:http://audio.ancientfaith.com/closetohome/cth_2009-03-29.mp3|titles=Close to Home]

Molly Sabourin, author of the Ancient Faith Radio podcast “Close to Home” reflects on the process of naming her daughter, Lucy, who died in the womb.

(View in context on Ancient Faith Radio)

Interview with the Author

March 17, 2009  
Filed under Audio and Video

[audio:http://audio.ancientfaith.com/interviews/jenny_2009-03-30.mp3|titles=Interview with Jenny]

Bobby Maddex interviews Jenny Schroedel, author of Naming the Child.
(View in context on Ancient Faith Radio)

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