The Book

I wrote this as a “gift book”—not in the conventional sense, it’s not exactly a coffee table book. But it was my hope that those who who knew somebody who is suffering in isolation would buy the book for them and take it to them. This simple act can open the door of conversation. It is a really good way to say, “I’m here, I’ll talk whenever you’re ready. I’m not afraid of the subject.”— Jenny

Naming the Child

For those who have experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, or the death of a child within the first year, this gentle resource offers:

  • stories of hope and wisdom;
  • practical advice and guidance, based on the experiences of many;
  • comfort and ways to honor and remember.

Naming the Child creates a community of love and support for bereaving parents and siblings, written with a light touch and sensitive spirit.

Paperback: 168 pages
Publisher: Paraclete Press (February 15, 2009)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1557255857
ISBN-13: 978-1557255853


Jenny Schroedel brings a rare and welcome depth and breadth of spiritual perception, gentle and inviting. Through poignant personal sharing, inspired quotes from the bereaved, captivating story telling and good orderly direction in the form of specific suggestions closing each chapter, Jenny Schroedel shows herself to be a competent guide. Her personal spiritual reflection is respectfully woven through the paragraphs like a golden thread.
— Lyn Breck, RN, CAC II, LPC, counselor

When I was nineteen weeks pregnant with my second child, Emma, I had a miscarriage. It’s impossible to know ahead of time how such an experience will impact you or your marriage. I recognized many of the challenges I faced in Naming the Child. I can say with confidence that this is an amazing resource.
— Amy Wilson, lawyer and mother of three

This book will allow bereaved parents to connect with shared, heartfelt stories, thus finding light and hope on their journey of grief.
— Cathi Lammert, RN, Executive Director, Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support, Inc.

When I lost my Quentin, I was expected to just move on with life. If anyone asked if I had children I would say I had a son with the Lord and was looked at as if I should not claim him as my baby, as if he did not matter. Even my mom says to this day that I should not tell my kids that they have a brother. He would be 21 on April 8th.

Thank you for sharing with me these stories, they have helped me take back my place as Quentin’s mommy.
— Denise Wagner

There is nothing more terrifying for a priest to deal with than the death of a child or a stillbirth. As I was reading Naming the Child, I almost felt as though I had a child. This is such a gentle book, and so necessary.
— The Right Reverend BENJAMIN, Bishop of San Francisco and The West

Naming the Child is a jewel. This book offers comfort while raising awareness about our culture’s fear of the grieving process. It includes interviews with parents who discuss their experience with vulnerability and strength. The book encourages health care professionals to allow grieving parents the opportunity to hold the infant. It is beautifully written – and quite relevant as I know many who have mourned such losses.
— S. P. Maddex

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